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Missed a nap? Short nap day? Bedtime suddenly a struggle? Your child may need what Allison calls a rescue bedtime.

In this episode, Allison breaks down one of the most powerful and most underused tools in a parent’s sleep toolkit: moving bedtime earlier after a rough nap day. This simple shift can prevent overtiredness, protect nighttime sleep, and keep a child’s schedule on track.

Many parents worry that an earlier bedtime will cause an earlier wake-up. In reality, the opposite is often true. A well-timed rescue bedtime helps children catch up on missed sleep, fall asleep more easily, and wake up better rested.

Parents who understand how to use a rescue bedtime feel more confident handling off days and stop worrying that one bad nap will ruin the next few nights.

Listen in to learn:
— What a rescue bedtime is and how much earlier bedtime should be
— Why overtired babies and toddlers often sleep worse, not better
— How to prevent night wakings and early morning wakeups after a rough nap day
— When to use an earlier bedtime and when it is not necessary
— Why an early bedtime usually leads to better sleep, not earlier mornings
— How a rescue bedtime protects a child’s circadian rhythm and next day schedule

Allison mentions Episode 235: What Time Should My Child Go to Bed? How to Find Their Ideal Bedtime

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236. The Rescue Bedtime: What It Is and How to Use It for Overtired Babies and Toddlers
Before we dive in today, I want to share something I’ve been noticing with my body and how I’ve changed my approach to fitness as of late. About a year ago, I had to stop running for the most part, meaning I was not going out for a two mile jog anymore because my knees were really bothering me. And then back in November, I started hormone replacement therapy and it’s been an absolute game changer on many fronts, but one delightful benefit is that my knees feel so much better. I assumed that once my knees felt better, I would get back to running, but I have found that I don’t feel great after running anymore. And my heart rate variability and sleep quality that I track on my Whoop isn’t very good after I run. This is new for me. But over the past five years I have really learned to listen to my body.

So instead of going on runs to get in shape for my spring and summer tennis season, which I’m very excited about because hopefully this spring and summer my knees don’t hurt the entire time, I have started walking two miles when I’m sitting at my daughter’s soccer practices. And then at home, I do Peloton hiking workouts in addition to my strength training because the hiking does get my heart rate up. And for now, that seems to be what my body wants. My body seems much happier with the hiking instead of the running. So I share this just as a friendly reminder to listen to your body and be open to seasons where your body will want and need different things in order to thrive.

Okay, on to today’s episode. After recording last week’s episode, I realized I wanted to take the conversation a step further. Today we’re talking about something I like to call the rescue bedtime. If you have a baby or toddler and you’re not familiar with my rescue bedtime concept, this episode is for you because it is the sleep tip that might completely change your life.

Hey there, Allison here. Welcome back to How Long ‘Til Bedtime. If you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while, you have probably heard me mention an extra early bedtime or rescue bedtime here or there. Maybe I said something like, if your baby had a rough nap day, don’t forget about the power of an extra early rescue bedtime. And maybe you thought, okay, but what does that actually mean? How much earlier and why?

I realized recently after recording last week’s episode that while I reference this concept often, I have never actually done a full episode explaining it. So today we’re going to fix that. The rescue bedtime is one of the most powerful and in my opinion, one of the most underutilized tools in a parent’s sleep toolkit. And once you understand it, you’ll wonder how you ever managed a nap disaster without it.

Let’s start with the basics. Last week’s episode was all about finding your child’s ideal bedtime. If you missed that episode, be sure to go back and listen to it because it’s an important part of figuring out the rescue bedtime. A rescue bedtime is simply a bedtime that is 30 to 60 minutes earlier than your child’s ideal bedtime. That’s it. If your child’s ideal bedtime is 7 PM, their rescue bedtime might be 6:30 or even 6:00, depending on the situation. And the purpose of a rescue bedtime is exactly what it sounds like. That’s why I gave it that name. It rescues your child’s sleep on days when daytime sleep is less than ideal. Because here’s the thing, babies and young children have a target amount of sleep in any given 24 hour window. For babies and toddlers, that total sleep need is made up of a daytime portion plus a nighttime portion. And when daytime sleep comes up short, let’s say a nap got cut off, a nap never happened, or the day just went sideways, that sleep debt doesn’t just disappear. Your child goes into the night carrying a bit of a deficit. And if you keep bedtime at the normal time, despite the deficit, there’s a good chance you’ll be putting an overtired child to bed and overtired children, as I talk about often, don’t sleep well.

The rescue bedtime closes that gap. It allows your child to make up for some or all of the missed daytime sleep. We’re doing it on the front end of their night sleep. So that is where we get to close that gap for their 24 hour sleep need. And that allows them to wake up the next day, fully rested instead of already in a sleep debt hole.

So let me make this really concrete with an example. Let’s say you have a baby whose ideal amount of sleep in a 24 hour window looks like three and a half hours of daytime sleep, 11 and a half hours of nighttime sleep. Their schedule would be bedtimes at 7 p.m. They wake at 6:30. That’s the rhythm. That’s what sets that baby up to be their best happy little self throughout the day. Now let’s say they have a day where this imaginary baby only sleeps for three hours total throughout the day. They are short 30 minutes of their ideal amount of daytime sleep, which is three and a half hours. If they kept bedtime at 7 p.m. that baby is going into their night overtired. And that means they may have a harder time falling asleep or they may have a night waking or they may wake earlier than normal or in the best case scenario, they wake at their typical time, but we’re still missing that 30 minutes.

But if instead you moved this bedtime to 6:30 PM, now that baby has the opportunity to get 12 hours of night sleep instead of 11 and a half. They make up for that missing 30 minutes on the front end of their night sleep. And let’s assume they wake up at 6:30 AM. Sometimes you’ll find they even wake up a little bit later than their typical wake time. But now they get to start the next day fully rested, which means their nap schedule stays intact, their circadian rhythm stays consistent, and you avoid the domino effect of one bad nap day turning into two or three rough nights or days in a row.

I want to share a story from a family I worked with recently because I think it really brings this to life and it’s a very common story that I experience with clients. So I was working with a seven month old, let’s call him Sam. Over the course of our two weeks of sleep logging, a really clear picture emerged. Sam really liked his daytime sleep. He thrived when he was getting four hours total of daytime sleep, which is on the high end for a lot of seven month olds. And then he was going to bed at seven and waking around 6:30. That was his optimal amount of sleep and his optimal kind of bedtime window. But we were in the middle of teaching Sam to fall asleep independently for his naps and to take those naps in the crib, which as many parents who have been through teaching babies to nap in the crib will know, this can be a bit of a bumpy process. So some days he was getting his full four hours, but other days he came up short. And on the days where he came up short and his parents initially kept the 7 p.m bedtime because I think despite our conversation, they struggled to believe me that he should go to bed earlier. He then struggled to fall asleep, which was actually very surprising to his parents because falling asleep independently at bedtime was something he had been doing well before we even worked together. But now he was not a happy little guy when he was overtired going into bedtime. And even a baby who has learned to fall asleep well can struggle when they’re carrying too much sleep debt into their bedtime. So here’s where the rescue bedtime changed things for them.

On days when Sam only got three and a half hours of daytime sleep, his parents just simply moved bedtime to 6:30. And on days where he got three hours or less, which we did have a couple of those, they moved bedtime all the way to six. And on those nights, he then still fell asleep easily and he slept until his normal 6:30 wake up, which allowed him to make up for all or at least most of his missed sleep during the day. And because he still woke at that normal time, we were able to maintain his ideal nap schedule the next day, which kept everything consistent. This is how we keep our children’s circadian rhythms on track. One small adjustment made after an off day can make having those off days a non-event, can make them so much less stressful.

So I just want to take another minute here to explain the why behind this because I think understanding it makes you much more confident about putting this tool into your toolbox. When a child is overtired, a few things happen that work against their sleep. Their body produces more cortisol, a stress hormone, to help them push through the tiredness. And while I think cortisol unfairly gets a bad rap, too much cortisol can be the enemy of an easy bedtime and of high quality sleep. It just makes it harder for our kids to fall asleep and it makes their sleep lighter and more fragile. And that increases the chances of night wakings and those way too early morning wakeups.

The rescue bedtime works because it gets your child into bed before that overtiredness becomes so severe. So instead of fighting through another hour of being tired where their body’s going to need that extra push to get through, they’re going to sleep while their body is still in a reasonable place. That allows them to fall asleep more easily. And that allows them to fall into a higher quality, more restorative sleep. And then they’re far less likely to have a false start, a night waking or that way too early morning wake up after just one rough day. The rescue bedtime essentially interrupts the overtired cycle before it has a chance to fully take hold.

So before I wrap up, let me just answer a few questions that I often get when I introduce this concept to families I work with. The most common, won’t an earlier bedtime mean an earlier wake up? And I talked about this in episode 235 and it’s always almost the opposite of what actually happens. A well-timed rescue bedtime leads to better sleep, which leads to either a normal wake up or sometimes even a later wake up the next morning. The rescue bedtime is allowing your child to make up for some of their missed sleep. So they’re going to get more sleep than they typically would because we knew going into it, they were short on sleep.

Another common question is how do I know when to use a rescue bedtime versus sticking with normal bedtime? And a good rule of thumb on this is if your child has gotten 30 minutes less daytime sleep than usual, then you’re really starting to move into that zone. So if they’re just a little bit short, you may not need to move bedtime earlier, but once we get to that 30, 45, 60 minute mark, it’s time to start thinking about a rescue bedtime and you’re probably going to see some signs that your child needs it. And it also becomes important that you know what their ideal bedtime is. That’s how you most effectively utilize a rescue bedtime.

And one more question. What if my child won’t fall asleep that early? If your child is genuinely not tired at the rescue bedtime, that is useful information. It might mean they’re not as sleep deprived as you thought, or that their ideal bedtime actually isn’t lined up as ideally as we want it to be. And something is shifting with their daytime sleep need. So they might be developing to now needing a little less day sleep than they previously did. So it’s a real clue if you think that your child is short on sleep and you tried the rescue bedtime and it didn’t work because your child just rolled around for a while before they fell asleep. I would take that as a clue. It might mean that something is changing with their overall sleep needs. But in most cases, if a child is short on day sleep, they are going to be ready for that early rescue bedtime. And you will probably, if you don’t use it, start to see those tired signs. If you see tired signs, don’t ignore them. Take it as a clue.

So to wrap up, the rescue bedtime is fairly simple. When your child has an off nap day, move bedtime earlier. Typically it’s somewhere in that 30 to 60 minutes earlier. This is going to help them make up for their missed sleep and avoid going into their night totally overtired. The rescue bedtime is key to protecting their night sleep. And then it’s protecting how much sleep they get overall. And it’s protecting their daytime sleep schedule the following day. This is what’s going to allow them to keep their circadian rhythm consistent and happy. And once you start using it, you’re going to wonder how you ever survived these bad nap days before you knew about it.

If this episode was helpful, please share it with a parent who is just struggling with inconsistent naps or inconsistent nights. And as always, thanks so much for listening, you guys. I will see you back here next week. Bye for now.